How to be a Trans Ally

People often ask me how to be a better ally to the transgender and gender non-conforming communities. The first thing I tell them is try to put yourself in the shoes of a trans or gender non-conforming (GNC) individual. Imagine that the body you were born in is betraying you every day. Imagine the feeling that you were born in the wrong skin. Imagine looking in the mirror every day and seeing the wrong person looking back at you.

That being said, there are some easy solutions to how to be a better ally to us:

Survey says LGB youth need our protection

Accelerated action is needed to protect the health and wellbeing of our lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) youth, according to study results just released by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). Findings from the report, Sexual Identity, Sex of Sexual Contacts, and Health-Related Behaviors Among Students in Grades 9-12, show that LGB students experience physical and sexual violence and bullying at much higher levels than their straight peers.

The CDC discovered that LGB youth are significantly more likely to report:

  • Being forced to have sex (18% LGB vs. 5% straight)
  • Sexual dating violence (23% LGB vs. 9% straight)
  • Physical dating violence (18% LGB vs. 8% straight)
  • Being bullied at school (34% LGB vs. 19% straight)
  • Being bulled online (28% LGB vs. 14% straight)

An open letter from LGBT community centers on the Orlando shooting

Our hearts break for the LGBT community in Orlando and for the families, friends, and loved ones of those who were killed.
While we are still learning many facts about the shooting, one thing is clear: this attack targeted LGBT people, particularly the many LGBT Latinx people attending Latin night at the Pulse nightclub. As community center leaders, we see the vast work that remains to eliminate homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, racism, and many other forms of bigotry from our communities; after Sunday, what is visible every day to us has now become clear to all.
LGBT bars were the original community centers; they were often the place where lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people could be themselves, find support, and meet other like-minded people. For over four decades LGBT community centers have been dedicated to creating safe spaces where people find sanctuary from hostility and find acceptance not available to them elsewhere. Like Pulse, LGBT community centers are places where people gather and build families of love.
June marks LGBT Pride Month. LGBT community centers across the country are hosting pride festivals, parades, and events to celebrate our history and the progress that we have made. In times of tragedy the LGBT community has always come together to show its resilience. We see this resilience now as we gather for local vigils, raise funds for the survivors, and renew our commitments to visibly demonstrate the many facets of our community pride.
Now more than ever we must raise our voices and be heard.
We as the community of LGBT centers denounce any attempts to scapegoat the Muslim community. As with LGBT people, Muslims have experienced hate based violence, stereotyping, and bigotry. We stand with our Muslim friends and allies in calling for an end to this intolerance. We appreciate the outpouring of support from Muslim leaders and are working hard to support the many LGBT Muslims struggling to heal from this tragedy.
We as the community of LGBT centers call for our communities, our allies, and our friends to demand action to hold our elected officials accountable for passing laws that limit access to assault weapons. We must make a decision about whether we want to be a country that is content with mass shootings becoming commonplace. LGBT people will always be at risk as long as bigots have easy access to assault weapons.
We as the community of LGBT centers demand that politicians and religious leaders stop spewing their hateful rhetoric and justifying their words with ignorance or religious verse. Your words cause harm. We will not stand by quietly when you whisper, shout, or legislate your hate. In response you will hear our shouts of condemnation for your actions, and our shouts of love and support for our LGBT family.
We will continue to serve our communities in good times and in bad. We will continue to stand strong. We will continue to build love and acceptance. With the support of our allies and fair-minded people from around the globe, we will win full equality for LGBT people, everywhere and forever.
In Pride,
CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers


  • Affirmations
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  • Alliance for GLBTQ Youth
  • ALSO Youth
  • BAGLY, Inc. (Boston Alliance of LGBTQ Youth)
  • Blue Ridge Pride Center
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  • Canadian Centre for Gender & Sexual Diversity/Day of Pink
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  • Out Boulder County
  • Out Youth
  • OutCenter of Southwest Michigan
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  • Persad Center
  • Phillip Rush Center
  • Phoenix Center
  • Phoenix Pride LGBT Center
  • Polestar LGBT Center of Traverse City
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  • Pride Center of Vermont
  • Pride Community Services Organization
  • Pridelines, Miami's LGBTQ Center
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  • Proud Haven
  • Q Center of Portland
  • QSpot LGBT Community Center
  • Queens LGBT Center (QCenter)
  • Queens Pride House, NYC
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  • Rainbow Resource Centre
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  • Resource Center
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  • San Diego LGBT Community Center
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  • Spencer Pride Community Center
  • SunServe
  • The Attic Youth Center
  • The Center Orlando
  • The Center Project in Columbia, Mo
  • The Center: 7 Rivers LGBTQ Connection
  • The Center-Advancing LGBT Colorado
  • The Community Center, Inc.
  • The Diversity Center: Santa Cruz County
  • The Gay & Lesbian Center of Southern Nevada
  • The Hawaii LGBT Legacy Foundation (@The LGBT Center)
  • The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center
  • The LGBT Center of Hampton Roads
  • The LOFT LGBT Community Center
  • The Montrose Center
  • The Newark LGBTQ Community Center
  • The Phillip Rush Center
  • The Pride Center of New Jersey
  • The Pride Center of New Jersey
  • The Rhode Island LGBTQ Center
  • The Spahr Center
  • Triangle Community Center
  • Upper Delaware GLBT Center, Inc.
  • Utah Pride Center - Salt Lake City 
  • Washington County Gay Straight Alliance, Inc.
  • Western Montana LGBT Community Center
  • William Way LGBT Community Center
  • Women in Network
  • Youth Outlook
  • Youth Outright WNC, Inc.